Doin’ What It Takes?

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DFWdad:  Doin' What It Takes?

What's going on? I don't know about you, but I live in north Texas, and it's been 105 degrees outside for 3 days straight. I gotta mention that because it's on my mind as I sit here in my 85 degree office this Monday afternoon.  "Monday" has a whole different meaning for me than for most working dads. Monday is my "day off." If you didn't know, I am a full-time youth minister for a church, so I get to pick my "day off." Why the quotes you may ask? That's because a "day off" with 3 children is a mirage. A "day off" with a 6, 4, and 1 year old, and 105 degree heat outside, is like being trapped in the book Lord of the Flies. It's like being a tiny salmon swimming up the Colorado river, with 3 bears clawing at you. Naw…not that bad. But I "escaped" from the island when mommy got home, so I could get this first post done. Hence, the tag line of the blog, "doin' what it takes."

I'm a Christian father, husband, and youth minister. So the saying "doin' what it takes" packs a huge punch.  I've got to do what it takes to get to heaven. Do what it takes to take as many with me as possible. Do what it takes to keep my marriage healthy. Do what it takes to be a good father. And do what it takes to do the job of a youth minister. There's no telling what that may look like from hour to hour, so I invite you to come alongside me in my discovery of what that means for a 32 year old man from north Texas.

This morning, doin' what it takes meant watching the 3 boys while the wifey went to an appointment that took all morning.  Doin' what it takes meant a large mug of coffee for me at 8 am and some reliable wi-fi.  It meant going over the wife's trek across the metroplex, before she left. It meant "wrestle-time" with the 3 boys (without shirts) while keeping heads from clashing. It meant conquering "King pig" on Angry Birds 2 for Donovan, and tracking my oldest's "nerf darts" that were supposed to arrive from UPS today. It meant, watching the same clip on my phone of Zander riding the carousel while I said "whooooaaa," over and over again, so he could forget about mommy being gone. Today, doin' what it takes meant making 3 peanut butter and jelly sandwiches at 10:30am, and opening 3 different kinds of yogurt, never to be finished (which drives me nutties!).  More than anything, it meant me relying on God to provide the patience and wisdom for me, and protection and care my children need. Because there's no way me or even my super wife could do it alone.  I remember feeling like I could handle 1 toddler on my own, but 2? And now a kid, a preschooler, and a toddler? No way! In those few long hours this morning, I've come to appreciate and respect the job of my wife, and all the other stay at home moms who have to do this daily, so much more.

So, you can imagine, why a part of me may look forward to "going to work" tomorrow.  But you know what? I wouldn't change a thing about my life, and the family God surrounded me with.  Doin' what it takes is my favorite thing to do, for the people I love. It is worth it now, and it will be even more worth it once my task on earth is done.  Love God, and love people. I'll do what ever it takes.

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Ben is the youth minister husband of @gingercasa1 and father of three awesome boys, ages 10, 8, and 5! He loves sports, music, and ministry and hanging out with his family.


  1. Great job, Ben! Love you!

  2. You forgot to add "doin what it takes" when your older sister calls you in the middle of all your daddy duties freaking out because she just resigned from her job…Thanks bro!!! V

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