This marriage post is brought to you by Family Christian. All opinions are mine.
Marriage is the 2nd biggest (longest) commitment you may ever make, behind your commitment to God. One would think that if we are making such a life-long investment in a single commitment, that we would work more at making it succesful. Although I've been working at my marriage for 10+ years, I'm always in need of guidance. So when I found this book The Dude's Guide to Marriage: Ten Skills Every Hustband Must Develop to Love His Wife Well, I immediately related to it. After cracking the cover and breaking it in, I haven't been disappointed. Darrin, and his wife Amie Patrick, do a great job of laying out practical ways to help my marriage. Each chapter focuses on a topic – Listen, Talk, Fight, Grow, Provide, Rest, Serve, Submit, Pursue, Worship – with action steps for improving each part of a couple's relationship.
Although the book says "10 skills," I've found myself learning way more than 10. In fact, one of my favorite parts of the book is the final section of each chapter. In this section, it offers "Five Good Questions" to ask to your wife. Dudes! This is it! We need a woman to tell us what she wants us to hear. These five questions will help spark conversations you're afraid to start on your own.
One of the skills I've really enjoyed learning is "Talk." This skill, discovered in chapter 2 of The Dude's Guide to Marriage showed me that "it isn't the content (the "what" of my words); it is the spirit (the how of my words) that gets me in to trouble." I'm so guilty of speaking AT my wife, rather than TO her. In her own words, she has told me that she doesn't appreciate the spirit of my words. I normally just let that roll off my back, and keep trying to communicate the same way. Dudes, are you ever guilty of this? Ladies, do your husbands do the same thing? This book will help you get away from those bad habits, just like it has helped me. Just head over to Family Christian by clicking here to pre-purchase a copy or two.